How To Heal A Broken Heart
Inspired on “Love & Survival” 8 Pathways To Intimacy And Health
by Dr Dean Ornish
A 7:30 speech summary on Dr Ornish “Love & Survival” book
at the Beach Cities Toastmasters club
Do you know anybody with Heart or chest pain, or a broken heart?
Broken Heart is any pain in the heart or chest caused by chronic negative emotions like Fear, Anger, Anxiety, Guilt, or Stress. It also includes broken relationships with friends, Family, co-workers or Romantic Partners. A broken heart is chronic blocked emotional trauma; I just read today: “Holding grudge is giving an unwanted person free rent in your head!” and this emotional trauma will make you sick if you don’t get ride of it ASAP!
I became very interested on this subject when after eating healthy & regularly exercising for so many years, I had some heart & chest pain episodes. & I found a nice way to solve it.
3 months ago a cancer patient told me “This book is healing my aching heart & my body.”
“Love & Survival”: 8 Pathways to Intimacy & Health. by Dr. Dean Ornish.
According to Dr. Ornish the main causes of heart pain & failure, & chest pain, are:
1. Lack of Love
2. Lack of Intimacy, &
3. Isolation or Lack of Social Support or Group Support
I will talk about: Intimacy or human connection and. group support first, and leave love for last because is the most fascinating for me.
Watch this video on how to heal a broken heart.
- Intimacy: is the capacity to be transparent with someone, in a safe place where you can confine and talk about your feelings & thoughts, knowing that we are not going to be judged or criticized.
Remember the phrase: I took it out of my chest,” just the fact that you are not going to be judged or criticized. Remember the phrase: I took it out of my chest,” just the fact that you are being heard, listened to, is healing. If we “eat” out negative feeling for a long period of time, it may result in heart or chest pain.
2. In a group support we have the same intimacy component too, now at the group level: a safe place to express our thoughts & feelings.
A support group could be almost anything: a cancer of challenged heart group, AA, OA, a yoga class, a meditation group, a church or spiritual group.
My favorite one is Toastmasters, where we come to open out Hearts to subjects like finances, Food, Travel, languages, marketing, nutrition, & religion, & all those nice things in life.
The next component on a group support is the sense & knowledge that we belong. Remember in cheers, a place where “you want to go where everybody knows your name”? They got together in a safe place to share feelings & thought about life, work, romance; and somehow at the end of the day, they got it out of their chests & they got healed & happy.
Another component of the group support is the knowledge that you matter, that your life matters to someone:
Dr. Rahcel Remen; founder & director of the Institute of Health & Illness, says:
“Once you know that your life matters to someone, it can’t be taken back from you.” When you know that you belong & that your life matters, you have that strength forever. This knowledge boosts your immune system & promotes health.
3. Now what is Love? We usually think that love is a very strong liking or attraction between two people.
Just remember when you were teenager: how many times your mother put up with you! & she still loves you! This is unconditional love!
Love is much more than that. Love is a powerful energy capable to influence people’s hearts.
Energy is the capacity to do work or overcome resistance. Energy is power or the capacity to influence. In a Coldplay song, Chris Martin says: “Use your heart as a weapon…, it hurts like heaven”…
One very interesting thing I found in this book is that most of the experts on the fields of love, intimacy, & group support say:
“These 3 factors are very powerful in ways that we don’t fully understand yet”
That wasn’t enough for me. I interviewed the 3 energy healing holistic practitioners.
They explained to me that negative emotions create an energetic electromagnetic field blockage in and around the heart that causes the pain and weakness to the heart. An energy healing session neutralizes this negative energy pattern, bringing back health to the heart and the flow of energy to the heart & the rest of the body. (An energy work healing session removes that blockage, allowing the energy to flow again.)
- Remember to bring more love & laughter into your lives.
- Have a perceptive friend to confine your feelings & thoughts & “Get it out of your chest!”
- Remember to come to TM meetings every week, as permitted.
- & if all of the above is not enough (to heal a broken heart), an energy healing practitioner can take care of your heart!
a Toastmasters Speech
Beach Cities Toasmasters club, the place to learn public speaking , overcame the fear of it and stage freight !
PS: if you have a (broken) heart challenge, go to see these two excellent “heart” specialists:
Jeannette von Johnsbach, Bio-energetic therapy
Alberto Amura, Reiki Master in Los Angeles